“When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching — they are your family.”
― Jim Butcher
Letting the right people inside your life will probably always remain a challenge. You sometimes misjudge people and you have to face the consequences. The twenties is a period of meeting a lot of people. If you are lucky enough, you form strong and beautiful bonds.
When I first left home to pursue engineering, I did not shed a tear. But I missed mum and weirdly I hardly showed any emotion, probably because I knew she would cry too. Over time, I expressed, how I missed her very much and how I controlled myself from tears flowing by, every time I said goodbye.
At the end of my undergraduate program, I realised how separated we all were due to dad’s transfers, our education and other commitments. It wasn’t any one’s mistake, but after granny passed away, we always had periods of separation for some reason or the other. Education or work.The four of us hardly stayed together for long and that was so disheartening to realise. From then on I tried my best in seeing to it that all of us spent ample time together. Back then we took few decisions on the same.
I have had an amazing family, whether we were away or together we were always connected. Looking out for each other, being there no matter what. Because that is what a family is supposed to do right?
A supportive and encouraging family is a necessity in your twenties. You are so confused with respect to so many things and there is so much peer pressure and the pressure of the society that to remain sane, you need one excellent support system.
In this phase of life, friends become your family too, your home away from home is the family you chose. You lose many but you also find who would stick with you through your thick and thin. I think that is very beautiful about your twenties, how so many things change, what you desire from a person and what you are ready to give back changes, your goals and definition of relationship, life and support changes.
Did your twenties see formation of strong bonds growng into your tribe? How was twenties, family and friends? 😉
The best times are always found when friends and family gather around.
Cheers to each one of them.
Family is the best thing in our human life. THey are our biggest support and they are the ones who shape our character in life.
Friends are family. I have friends who are closer to me than my family and I love them like sisters. Have a beautiful day and good luck with the A-Z Challenge. #blogsharelearn
Near or far as life may take us buddy, family and a few chosen friends remain our backbone.
Family really stays through thick and thin…there’s are awesome friends that also become family…or even closer
Good friends are like family. I was lucky to make a few friends who have stood by me through thick and thin; even though we don’t speak for long periods of time, when we do, it feels like we just spoke yesterday!
I am now far into the second half of my life, but the friends I made in my 20s and 30s are still friends today. Sadly, our only communication is via Facebook and messenger etc. But I know they’re there, and they know where I am.
I fear I lost more than I gained in terms of direct family during my twenties… the truth was I was hardly home. Medical studies took me to two different states and home was just a 3 day visit in between 6 months. Twenties were a time when friends had to step in and be the ones I relied upon.
True ! Family always comes through even though you may not connect every day
Very well said Ramya. Family always comes first. Yes, there are some friends who become family with time but there is no comparison. Very beautifully written post.
Hi Ramya, This is such an honest and heartfelt post. That is what I personally found beautiful about this one. While Family is our bedrock..your foundation…your roots, we also have to fly and find our mates. That´s the natural progression of life. Yes, the twenties, as you rightly said, is an interesting defining phase of your life. While, you have a strong rooted family to always go back to, you actually set the ground for your future relationships. This is my first time on your blog. I was curious as Family was playing on my mind as well for the day´s challenge. On that note, I would like to invite you to my blog..the day´s challenge F is for Fuck Mantra https://pensense.blogspot.in/2017/04/f-is-for-fuck-mantra-atozchallenge.html. Would love to know your thought on it. Keep writing…I love your style. Cheers!